What does abiding look like? The abider moves in the flow of God. The flow of God is complete acceptance that whatever is...is. Abiding is the complete acceptance that God is in control and His will is the only will that matters. The abider gives the soul no reign. The abider walks in the spirit and carries out the will of the Father. There is no “my will.” Now you say only “Your will”. Just as Jesus was always about the Father’s business, we, too, are about the will of the Father.
God is working out His will in and through you. The Father’s will is active not stagnate. The Father is always working out His righteousness. He is always working all things together for our good and for His glory. He is orchestrating all the events of history together to bring His creation back to Himself, to the praise of His glorious grace. Abiding is accomplished in total trust of the Father. We trust Him because we know He is good and right, His character is sure. So you are being responsible to let things happen through you, knowing the Father is in control of all things working around you, working all things together for the good of those who love Him and are called according to His purpose.
The Father works all things together according to His will. Nothing happens by chance. Nothing is by mistake. All things are designed for the Father’s will, for His Name’s sake and glory. Not even a butterfly will come into your presence but by the will of God. So, knowing this, you can trust and rest, living with the Sabbath rest of God, ceasing from your work and accepting His work in and through you.
The Christian life should feel like you are in the ride of your life, but you are not driving. You are riding without resistance against where you need to go. You realize it just is what it is. Your life is completely abandoned to God. As events happen, you accept that event in complete trust knowing God is allowing it for His purposes and His will. You must experience the next event; it may seem "good" or "bad" but it is the necessary event or situation. In fact, the abider assumes that the event is ultimately good because God is working it together for good no matter what it is.
How do you tell if someone is abiding? You will see a thankful person. Thankfulness is the sign of an abider. The absence of worry or anxiousness is also the sign of an abider. Peace is normal. Joy is normal. The spirit of man is accepted as righteous and holy, full of love desiring to be expressed in every situation because of the finished work on the cross. So when a storm comes, there is peace. Peace flows like a river and you say, “it is well with my soul.” God is the anchor of your soul, the foundation on which you stand. He is the strong tower in which you abide. He is the Rock of your salvation. You will not be shaken. You are secure and solid in Him. He is able to make you stand and He will do it. He is doing it.